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But my parents aren't saved!

There have always been times in history when believers have had to stand alone or stand along side only a few other believers in a world filled with unbelievers. Think of Noah in Genesis chapter 6. God looked down and saw that ALL men were "only evil continually" (Gen. 6:5). "But Noah found grace in the eyes of the LORD" (Gen. 6:8). Eventually Noah, his wife and his three sons with their wives, entered the Ark with the animals. Just picture their situation. Only 8 believers in a WORLD Filled with unbelievers. ONLY 8 believers to have fellowship with and everyone else was against you. Yet they were able to obey God and finish the Lord's work while they were surrounded by unbelievers.

For some Christian Teens, their life is a lot like Noah's life, in that they are living among unbelievers for the most part. Just like Noah, when he was building an Ark with no water or rain in sight, some Christian Teenagers with unsaved parents will be mocked and made fun of for doing the Lord's work, which often seems ridiculous to the unsaved. Noah had to keep building and keep going ahead with what God had called him to do, even though the whole world was not wanting to hear his message. 2 Peter 2:5 tells us that Noah was "one of eight people, a preacher of righteousness..." and that God brought "the flood on the world of the ungodly."

No, it was not easy for Noah to take a stand before so many unbelievers but he did in God's strength and so can Christian teens today with unsaved parents.

So how do Teens with unsaved parents deal with their home life?

They live godly before the unsaved, just as God calls ALL believers to live.

They obey the Lord in church, at school and especially in the home.

Ephesians 6:1 says "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right." How do teens apply this biblical truth in a home where the parents are unsaved?

Start by "Honoring your father and mother" (Eph. 6:2). Show them respect! Which simply means to esteem them highly. God knows you have unsaved parents! The Lord knows all your struggles at home. Yet He still calls you to honor your parents that are unsaved! In General, do what they ask you to do! Respect their position as parents, even if they treat you poorly because of your faith. Paul said "all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution" (2Tim. 3:12). This truth includes Christian teens living with unsaved parents.

Some teens may be asking "but what if my parents ask me to do something that is wrong or sinful according to God's word?

I'm sure this is happening all the time all over the world. My heart goes out for Christian teens who live in this kind of environment. I'm about to give you general principles from God's word. If you have a pastor, youth leader or some friends who have godly Christian parents, you should seek council from them, as to what course of action to take. With that said, let me give you some general principles to live by:

Do all that you can to honor and obey your parents. They are your God given guardians and your legal guardians according to the Laws of our country.

If the time ever came that they did ask you to do something that is strictly forbidden in God's Word, tell them of your biblical convictions. Politely ask them if they would PLEASE not require this "thing" of you. I hope this never happens to you, but if it does, go to people in your church for help as soon as possible.

For some Christian teens, your parents may never ask you to do something contrary to God's Word, but they live as unbelievers do, and that in itself creates a difficult environment for believers to live in, but not impossible! Let me draw from a principle that the apostle Peter gave to wives living with unsaved husbands. Peter instructed Christian wives to "be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word (unbelievers), they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear (1Pet. 3:1,2). Peter does not tell the Christian women to start preaching Hell fire and brimstone messages to their husbands. No, instead he tells them to live godly before these unsaved men. Let the unsaved see the change that have taken place in your life. When the unsaved see the change in your attitude and changes in your morality, they'll know that something has really happened. Hopefully as the unbeliever sees the new conduct in your life, they'll ask questions as to why you're changing. You see, you can make people thirsty spiritually! You can cause people to WANT TO ask you: WHY are your changing? WHAT'S happening in your life? WHY have you stopped doing this thing or that thing? WHY are you so Happy all the time? WHY are you so nice to me? WHY do you enjoy going to church so much? WHY do you read that Bible all the time? Are you getting the picture here?

So, how does this 1Pet. 3 passage relate to Christian Teens living with unsaved parents? In the following way: Just like a believing wife with an unsaved husband, teens may have a God given leader / authority in their life who is not saved. God gives special instruction for dealing with this family situation. Concentrate on being a witness by your changed lifestyle. Be RESPECTFUL! Be OBEDIENT! Be a LOVING son or daughter towards your parents!


Remember, the Lord was patient waiting for you to come to HIM, so you be patient as you pray for your parents to believe in the Lord Jesus Christ.

The Loudest Message you Preach - is THE LIFE YOU LIVE before unbelievers, including your unsaved parents!

A final word of testimony: I was saved when I was 21. No I wasn't a teen, but I was in the service.  I don't know if I was the very First person saved in my family.   My dad made us go to church. 

I share this with you to give you hope! Don't give up on your situation. Be patient! Be godly and loving before your unsaved family! Don't give your unsaved family members any reason for not wanting to know the Jesus that has made such a change in your life!

And last of all, remember, other believers have lived in your situation before and have maintained a godly witness even in less than favorable conditions.

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